Are you struggling with the fear of rejection? This article will help you to overcome your challenge. How?
The fear of rejection is one of the most destructive fears in life. This article explained the anatomy of this fear. You have learnt what causes it, its symptoms, and the long-term and short-term consequences if it is not combated.
But it is never too late to seek help and overcome this challenge. Today you will learn proven and effective, holistic tools that will transform your life. Are you ready to continue reading?
How to Overcome the Fear of Rejection
Below, you will find nine practical tools helpful with overcoming the fear of rejection. You can use one tool or combine them according to your needs.
1. Check What is Behind the Fear of Rejection
Learn more about this fear. Rejection may cover some underlying challenges, like the fear of abandonment, the fear of loneliness, or just worrying about some issues, e.g., your finances, health, or a relationship. You can also be attached to your property, someone you love, or a habit, and rejection can mean loss. In this case, work on your fear of losing things, people, or yourself.
2. Accept It
One way to deal with the fear of rejection is to accept it. You do not need to like this fear, but it is helpful to acknowledge it. Moreover, never beat yourself up for the fear of rejection.
For example, never beat yourself up when you are afraid during a job interview or when you start to work in a new place. Negative thinking is the worst thing you can do. Never put pressure on yourself to feel “normal.” You have the guts to feel the fear… and do it anyway.
3. Change Your Thoughts and Beliefs
This is an essential tool if you want to overcome the fear of rejection. Low self-esteem and being a people-pleaser are the reasons hidden behind rejection. These thinking patterns are just automatic programs playing in your head when you dread rejection.
I will give you two strategies for combating negative thinking patterns that ignite the fear of rejection: stop being self-centred and reprogram a new identity based on your self-worth.
Remember That People Aren’t Focused on You
Although people might have an opinion about you, it usually happens because they project their thoughts, emotions, and fears onto you. But remember, their minds are also programmed by society, and they also dread rejection.
Moreover, people can be preoccupied with something/someone else, not you, during your appearance. It is your attitude and thinking pattern of being at the centre of the world. Whenever a thought of being in the limelight destroys your peace of mind, say to yourself,
Dear mind, stop that thought. You know I am a wonderful, beautiful child of the universe. I am OK here.
Remind yourself of your worth
Your self-worth has also been programmed by your childhood and youth experiences, as well as social, cultural, religious, and scientific doctrines. However, very few individuals were told about their worth, no matter what happens to their lives.
Also, people are often crude, sometimes rude and boorish, openly ridiculing someone different from the majority. But this kind of behaviour has also been programmed.
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4. Change Your Self-Talk
Self-talk utters your thoughts and beliefs. Do your best to use positive, uplifting language. Try a mantra like “I am enough, ““I can do hard things,” or “I can handle it.” Slam your inner critic emerging after rejection by talking to your mind.
Stop that; it does not serve me, I’, putting these words into the bin.
In particular, beware of phrases like those: “I knew I’d mess that up,” “I didn’t … (name the activity, skill) enough,” “I talked too much,” or “I’m so boring.” What can you use instead?
Practise Affirmations
I have written a couple of articles about affirmations. This technique can be combined with visualisation, EFT. You can affirm by reading aloud and writing or combining both of these methods.
Practise Visualisation
Visualisation uses your imagination to see the picture of something in your mind. You can also use hearing and touch here.
By visualising, you can train your mind to manifest what you want, even without physical activity. So you imagine a scenario, and it becomes your prophecy.
To visualise effectively, find a peaceful place where no one will disturb you. Moreover, set a particular time to visualise. Mornings after getting up and evenings before falling asleep are the best.
5. Channel your Emotions
It just means venting them out but not on another person or by destroying yourself by, e.g., drinking. Your mind and body are interconnected, so negative emotions can trigger the same quality of thoughts and create a vicious circle.
However, if you unload your emotions and clear your mind from the heavy load of thinking, peace of mind and a relaxed body will be your reality.
6. Take Care of Yourself First
If self-care is not your strong point, you will be vulnerable to rejection. Dowdy clothes, being overweight, and being unfit will not help you find a dream partner or a job. The same applies to negative thinking and some habits, e.g., procrastination.
Also, you will not be able to question a possible rejection while being physically and mentally ill, sleeping too little, or feeling moody. Take care of yourself first, and there will be less chance of rejection and fear. Start with clearing your clutter.
7. Heal Cellular Memory
Modern science assumes that cells are charged with the energy of emotions, traumas and the subconscious memory of past events, not only from the current life.
Your genes are transmitted from your ancestors. This is the base. However, today, science confirms that you can shape the quality of your genetic material. How?
By changing your thinking, feeling and acting. Thought can activate love or a fight-or-flight reaction (feeling) that becomes action. Moreover, the chemicals causing a given reaction are stored in every cell of your body.
But once you fire a different chemical, e.g. serotonin (the happiness hormone) or oxytocin (the love hormone), your cell focuses on creation rather than survival.
8. Relax and Charge Yourself Spiritually
The tools described here are universal and can be used to overcome other challenges, such as depression, fear of failure, or hearing voices. However, these tools are so important that I have decided to write about them again. Recharge your body, mind, and soul spiritually.
Practice Meditation
There are many kinds of meditation. I am writing about the holistic one, combining spiritual and mental aspects. Start with a few minutes daily, connecting to your soul and as God and Higher Beings of Light to help eradicate the fear of rejection. Visualise that the fear is overcome.
Pray
I have already mentioned some prayers to transform your subconscious mind. You can also pray to alleviate the fear of rejection – not only on the mental level. Check these prayers and transform your life.
Practise Body Work
This is your awareness of the body and its reactions. Some effective bodywork techniques include rolfing, reiki, and craniosacral therapy. I recommend focusing on each part of the body and its reactions, e.g., during walking or lying down.
Practise Breathwork
Whenever the fear of rejection attacks you, try breathwork. Focus on breathing in and out. Before you start a serious talk with your partner or a job interview, breathe consciously in the 4-4-4 rhythm (inhaling – holding – exhaling). Apart from stressful events, practise breathing exercises regularly each day.
9. Face Your Fear of Rejection
Now, take action. You can try exposing yourself to fear, overcoming the avoidance of social situations, and being active in your team or relationship. Increase the time you spend facing the fear of rejection and praise yourself each time you have taken the challenge, no matter how well it has gone.
Examples of social interactions are introducing yourself to new people, expressing your opinion during a conference, asking questions, and proposing new solutions to your employer. Learn how to build unbreakable self-confidence.
If you are an empath, remember to ground yourself and cleanse negative energy to combat the fear of rejection. Protect and strengthen your aura regularly.
Look for the Learning Opportunity
Like everything, fear of rejection is an opportunity to learn more about yourself—what challenges need to be overcome, what areas of life need more self-confidence and self-worth, and what thoughts magnify the monster—your fear.
Credits to Healthline.com and Choosing Therapy.
In a Nutshell
Fear of rejection can be paralysing and challenging. However, knowing its roots, accepting it and self-care can help to disarm this fear. Work on your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual goals, plus be brave to face the fear of rejection. Good luck. With lots of love and light,
Victoria Herocten
