8 Practical Steps to Heal Guilt In Midlife

Have you ever struggled with guilt? Is it your constant challenge? Discover the process of 8 practical steps to heal guilt.

This article will focus on healing guilt by transforming it into higher vibrations in a holistic manner. First, you will discover if guilt is your challenge. Later, I will explain how to transform guilt into acceptance, love and joy. Are you ready to change your life?

Dear middle-aged woman, how often have you felt guilty lately? Because you don’t satisfy the needs of other people, because you have disappointed someone or just because you are not enough.

How Guilty Do You Feel?

Take a short test. Below are some situations that you can meet every day. How would you react?

• Not sticking to workout plans.
• Faking sickness for your partner to do chores for you.
• You are forgetting to buy your mum a birthday present.
• Befriending your acquaintance who supports a different political party.
• Name-calling at your child.
• Criticising your partner’s body.
• Swearing during a crucial public speech.
• Procrastination.

If your answer is ‘I feel guilty’, keep reading.

How Does Guilt Manifest in Midlife?

In general, you will experience stress and discomfort on physical, mental, and spiritual levels. Why? Because you know something is wrong. And what can be bad in midlife?

Your body is changing, your mind is no longer the same as it was in your 20s, your kids have left the nest, or your relationship has recently broken up. You might have changed your job as well.

In particular, there will be obsessive thoughts that will rattle in your mind, impeding your sleep. You can also feel anger at yourself, which can easily be vented on others. As a result of poor sleep, your efficiency and effectiveness at work plummets. Vicious circle

Heal guilt, as it can also trigger cravings, seeking a one-night stand opportunity, or excessive spending of your money; these kinds of behaviour aim to soothe the pain caused by guilt. You can also procrastinate, playing computer games or watching TV for hours. In extreme cases, and I know them personally, you may not want to get up out of bed at all, all day.

All these kinds of behaviour aim at soothing your pain. But does it help indeed? Short-term – yes, but the long-term consequences can be severe, not only for you but also for your family and friends.

Additionally, Guilt can take a toll on your health. It is the simplest way to cancer and coronary disease.

Guilt Will Also Kill Your Happiness in the Future

If you ruminate on what happened, how much someone suffers and how bad you are, beware. You are just about to create a new thinking pattern, which will trigger more Guilt in the future. Why?

Firstly, your thoughts and body reactions will be triggered faster and more easily. If you don’t address Guilt, it will continue to work on autopilot. Secondly, you start creating more situations that trigger Guilt, attracting similar people and circumstances, and you will perpetuate Guilt.

All guilt programs close the door to a happy relationship or a profitable business because you believe you don’t deserve a new, better life. Fear is also present because you are afraid of making the same mistakes again (see the cases listed above)

Guilt can generate low self-esteem and self-confidence due to justified criticism of your work or behaviour when you try to compensate for the pain.

Do You Have to Heal Guilt?

If guilt is so common, why should we eliminate it, instead of healing and transforming?

According to David R. Hawkins, Guilt is the second-lowest level of consciousness, the second-most-destructive emotion. Blame, blame, blame… It’s the motto of Guilt. This article focuses on self-blame.

Unfortunately, guilt assumes that you do not take up responsibility for your life. It is the victim’s realm – helpless, hopeless and often depressed. No one wants to be a victim; we want to succeed and feel happy.

Guilt is also used as a kind of manipulation, e.g. by parents to control their children, even if these children are already 30, 40 or even over 50 years old. If you don’t start with yourself to overcome guilt, I can assure you that other people will not do it either.

How to Heal Guilt Holistically

Guilt can be transformed into any of the values of light. Some of them will be discussed below. You can also change the level of your consciousness, for example, to love or peace. Let’s start the process of transformation and growth then:

1. Understand Your Guilt Patterns

You have partially completed this task by taking the test presented above. However, I encourage you to dig deeper. Take a diary and answer these questions in writing:

• How high is your self-esteem – at work, in business, in your intimate relationship, among your family (parents, aunts/snties, in-laws)? If you were to say ‘no’ to them, would it be easy?
• Are you avoiding some emotions, seeing them as impure?
• How often do you put others before yourself – in business and your private life? When was the last time you tried to please someone at the expense of your own needs?
• How often were you overwhelmed by possibly making the wrong decision?
• Are you sensitive to your actions and words, e.g. being afraid that your remark will hurt someone?

2. Forgive Yourself and Thank You for The Courage and Strength

You may feel guilty about decisions made in the past. Stop it. Love will forgive all. You are constantly growing, and your level of consciousness and knowledge was different at the moment your decision was made than now.

Also, you would not learn anything if only the right decisions were made, without touching any darkness. It would be too dull, and there would be no opportunity to row.

Instead of beating yourself up for the mistakes made, try the mirror technique. Say to yourself aloud, at any time you go to the toilet:

3. Heal Guilt Into the Things That You Want to Create

Create a burning desire to be a compassionate person. In this way, you will attract similar people, so guilt will not be necessary. If any thoughts concerning the past emerge, transform them into the ideal scenario. Learn more about the law of assumption.

Beware of anxiety and fear; they are the siblings of Guilt and will sabotage your new identity. Every time you start to feel afraid of something, use the tools to transform it into a higher-vibrational state of consciousness, such as love.

4. Thank Yourself For the Courage and Strength

Whatever happened, it was indispensable for your growth. Even if you had to hurt someone. Not every soul dared to include it in their soul plans. Therefore, say aloud, with faith and self-confidence, in front of the mirror:

Bear in mind that words create your new reality, and you can reprogram your subconscious mind. By repeating the affirmation you have just read, guilt will be eradicated. However, I do not encourage you to do more evil in your life.

5. Use Uplifting Language to Heal Guilt

Words can transform. Instead of ‘feeling guilty’, say ‘I have learned the lesson’. Never call yourself an idiot, jerk, etc., just because you have done something wrong. Avoid the words ‘danger’, ‘disaster’, ‘problem’ or ‘trouble’. Replace them with ‘challenge’, ‘lesson’ or ‘test’.

You can also practise this affirmation below. Repeat these words with certainty, every morning and evening and at any time your mind tells you the opposite.

6. Test Your Strength in a New Relationship

I do not mean finding a new boyfriend or husband at this time. A new acquaintance or friend will be enough – or dare to refresh your current relationships by being the model of positive vibrations, guilt-free.

So the next time you have to go to dinner with a toxic family member present, take a deep breath and relax – treat this meeting as an opportunity to test your inner strength. Listen, but also be assertive. You owe nothing to your family.

If you are in a relationship and have hurt someone, first apologise and heal the wound. However, it never returns to the issue, neither discussing it nor giving it thought. It is the past, and now you are living a new life.

However, a relationship is a mutual partnership, and both partners must make an effort to make it viable and happy. You must heal from Guilt to enjoy your relationship to its fullest potential.

In the case that you start a new relationship, assume that a different scenario will unfold this time, i.e., you will not do wrong to this new person. Be disciplined with your thinking and speaking to create a different scenario. Otherwise, the challenges will return until you learn the lesson.

7. Stop Judging to Heal Guilt

It may seem natural. We have learnt the habit of judging from our parents, in our religious community and at school, observing teachers’ behaviour. Later, it was common at work. But does judging work, indeed?

So, you may even think that if creation is your right, the same applies to judging; however, then you create the judgment of yourself. Other people and beings label you as good, bad, right, wrong… And it will not heal Guilt.

Plus, playing referee is also costly in terms of energy investment. You attract negative beings, plus it takes a lot of effort to defend from those whom you have judged. Then, fixing the problems of energetic hooks or energy leaks can also exhaust you.

8. Never Do Evil Deliberately

Sometimes you may think: If I can forgive myself for any deed I have done, why not create something hurtful deliberately, as revenge for bad treatment by others?

Stop it. The consequences of your intention will be disastrous… but for you and only for you. Being conscious spiritually and knowing the laws of the Universe, the consequences will be more severe than in the case of someone unaware of these laws.

Other people will suffer, but your karma will be very challenging, and it will have to be made up in more than one future life. Additionally, you will meet the same people then, which will hurt you this time.

Moreover,  you will not heal guilt being struck in the most sore spot, at the most unexpected time. For example, in the case of deliberate cheating on your partner, someone will cheat you at work, and your assets will be lost.

Last but not least, the Mental Health Month starting next Wednesday is a great opportunity to change your thoughts, beliefs, habits, and even your identity. Are you ready?

In a Nutshell

Healing guilt can help you achieve your goals and create a happy life. Meet the monster, accept its nature, forgive yourself and others and improve your relationships. Turn to Higher Spirits for help. Test your strength and never give up. Good luck. With love and light,

Victoria Herocten