I’m a holistic guide for women facing difficult people, usually family, and who take too much on their shoulders.
I help adult daughters 35+ who feel guilty, responsible or anxious around difficult parents find their inner power and worth, make and stand by more conscious choices about their time, boundaries, and care – without becoming cold or stopping caring.
I made the bold decision to move to Ireland, where I’ve lived for 20 years, to grow and broaden my horizons, and I embarked on a profound journey of self-discovery and holistic living. And now I am sharing my experience and wisdom with you.
I wrote Awaken Mega Happiness (2017), co-authored The Gratitude Project (2009 Edition), wrote the e-book Rebuild Your Mind, Reclaim Your Life (2025), and created the I Matter Alignment course (2026). I specialise in personal empowerment, holistic well-being, and breaking free from toxic relationships.
I founded Awaken Happy Life in 2018, and my work today follows the I Matter Method: Awaken · Release · Align. It is a calm, structured process for noticing what has shaped you, releasing what no longer serves you, and living what truly matters to you. You can read my full story on victoriaherocten.com, or start with the free I Matter guide.
2009 Edition – Celebrating the 365 Days of Gratitude. Co-author, edited by Donna Kozik.
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